How to Build Your Child's Confidence in Public Speaking

Public speaking comes naturally to very few and the idea of speaking in front of a group can feel intimidating, even terrifying, especially for children. Whether it’s presenting a book report, answering a question in class, or speaking at a school assembly, public speaking is something children have to do but might not be comfortable with from the onset. Building this skill is important though for a multitude of reasons and creating a confidence in public speaking for children should, and can be, learned, practiced, and strengthened over time.

As a parent, you play a powerful role in helping your child develop the confidence they need to speak clearly, comfortably, and proudly. Here’s how you can support them every step of the way.

Why Public Speaking Confidence Matters

Public speaking isn’t just about talking in front of people. It's about self-expression, critical thinking, and self-belief. Children who feel confident speaking in front of others often:

• Participate more actively in class.
• Advocate for themselves and their ideas.
• Build stronger social and leadership skills.
• Feel more prepared for future academic and career opportunities.

Helping your child become a confident speaker today sets them up for success well beyond the classroom.

Start Small and Make It Safe

Confidence grows best in low-pressure environments. Start by encouraging your child to speak in familiar, comfortable settings.

Try this at home:

• Have them explain their favorite game, show, or hobby at dinner.
• Ask them to “teach” you something they learned at school.
• Let them tell a short story to family members.

The goal isn’t perfection, it’s helping them feel heard and supported.

Normalize Nervousness

Many kids think feeling nervous means they’re bad at speaking. Help them understand that nervousness is normal, even for adults. Sometimes it is okay for them to have those butterflies in their stomach, so long as they are flying in formation!

Let your child know:

• Everyone feels nervous sometimes, it is a normal response.
• Being nervous doesn’t mean they’ll fail.
• Confidence comes from practice, not from never feeling scared.

Sharing your own experiences with public speaking can help your child feel less alone.

Practice Through Play

Public speaking doesn’t have to feel formal or intimidating. Turning practice into play can make a big difference.

Fun ideas include:

• Pretend news broadcasts or weather reports
• Storytelling with stuffed animals as the audience
• Family talent shows or “open mic” nights

These activities help children practice speaking clearly while keeping things light and fun.

Focus on Effort, Not Perfection

Avoid overcorrecting or focusing too much on mistakes. Instead, praise your child’s effort and courage.

You might say:

• “I’m proud of you for trying.”
• “You spoke so clearly about something you love.”
• “It takes bravery to speak in front of others.”

Positive reinforcement builds confidence far more effectively than criticism.

Encourage Real-World Opportunities

As your child grows more comfortable, look for age-appropriate opportunities to speak in group settings, such as:

• Classroom presentations
• Reading the morning announcements at their school
• Clubs, sports teams, or student councils
• Community programs, camps, or workshops

The more positive experiences your child has, the more confident they’ll become.

Model Confident Communication

Children learn a lot by watching you. When they see you speak confidently, whether on a phone call, at a meeting, or in a group conversation, they’re learning what confident communication looks like.

Show them:

• Calm body language
• Clear, respectful speech
• Willingness to share ideas

Your example can be just as impactful as any lesson.

Celebrate Progress, Big and Small

Confidence doesn’t happen overnight. Celebrate milestones, whether it’s raising a hand in class or speaking in front of a small group.

Remind your child that:

• Growth takes time
• Every step forward counts
• Their voice matters

Final Thoughts

Building your child’s confidence in public speaking is a journey, one that requires patience, encouragement, and plenty of practice. By creating a supportive environment and offering opportunities to speak without fear of judgment, you’re helping your child develop skills that will benefit them for a lifetime.
With your support, your child can learn not just how to speak but how to speak with confidence.